Happiness?

By personal happiness i was referring to my own happiness over Anna's happiness. Is that what you were thinking about in personal happiness?

I don't think Christians have a hold on the love definition, but I do think that we have something to say about love. I think true love is especially seen when someone sacrifices their own happiness for someone else. Love is very sacrificial in nature. The act of committing to someone for the rest of your life requires sacrifice. There are a lot of things you are not going to be able to do and a lot of dreams that you are going to have to give up because of the love you have for someone else. And that is in an ideal relationship. What if the person you love goes crazy or becomes suicidal or depressive and makes your life miserable? Is that no longer love, because your personal happiness is no longer present? I think you can not have love between two people without some sort of loss of personal/individual happiness.

Why can't a faith system speak to ethics? Would you say personal happiness is the goal of ethics?